Why men pull away from a relationship

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It can be especially confusing if men pull away when they are falling in love. It still hurts. As a woman, you would feel that his lack of presence leaves a void that is difficult to fill. But why do men pull away from the relationship? And how can you deal with it in the best way possible when they do? How can you deal with it as a feminine yet high value woman? The reality is that men will pull away and withdraw from you and from the relationship.

I have definitely heard about men who have never pulled away in a relationship. However, that man who never pulls away is a rare exception. And is able to be the exception, perhaps due to the fact that he is just in the right place in his relationship timeline when he met you. It could be due to the myriad of factors in their unique relationship lining up at exactly the right time. And you will feel it in your body, your heart and in your emotions.

So of course, there are exceptions to this rule that masculine men pull away from their intimate relationship at some point. However, whether a man is in love with you or not — there will likely come a time when you feel him pulling away. Pulling away is simply what masculine men have to do sometimes. This is about understanding his equilibrium as a masculine soul.

If you think your man might be emotionally unavailable, you can find out for sure in this article on emotionally unavailable guys. Is your man serious about committing to you? Most men can only take being connected deeply to you for a certain amount of time before they need to remove themselves to find their equilibrium again. They need to re-engage with their identity through their mission, their goals, and their masculine passions.

A man who is truly in love with you can usually spend more time with you before he needs to pull away. Be that as it may, each man is unique and each moment is also unique. Sometimes the more in love he is, the more he needs to pull away when everything seems to be going well. This is because at some point he realises that he has a responsibility inside of the relationship to give to you. And in order to feel capable as a man to give to you — he needs to feel like he is enough.

To feel like he is enough as a man and as a provider, he may pull away and delve into his goals, missions and passions. Being worthy as a man becomes the priority in that case. Think about it. It is very common for your man to pull away in the early stages of a relationship. Of course, this does not always mean that your relationship is doomed — quite the contrary. Because no man wants to give up his freedom and masculine missions in fear that he has a woman who will restrict him and pull him back.

I only say this because most of us myself included have a tendency to respond with fear and neediness when he pulls away. Look, there are good survival and protective reasons for us doing this. This is not something for you to be angry about or even to be scared of… this is just something for you to understand and appreciate. None of this will change the truth of how you feel when he pulls away, though. When he withdraws — it hurts. You may not say so out loud.

You may get angry. You may feel unloved. You no longer feel like the princess that perhaps he once treated you as. Whatever your experiences may have been… do not make your feelings wrong. The difference between a high value, vulnerable woman and a woman who finds it hard to inspire any emotional commitment from men is exactly this…. If we as women have become attached or connected to a man, or if a man has any value to us, something happens inside of us. We naturally become irrationally afraid that his withdrawal from the relationship could mean 3 important things.

Which of course is not always true! It certainly happens. But inside of a relationship, it is usually much less common than what we women tend to think…. So we try to resist the pain and perhaps get angry at him or beg him to stay.

Perhaps it was only a casual sex situation or that he got what he wanted and now she will never see the man again. And how can we show up as a feminine yet high value woman in those fearful moments? I am talking about emotional bonding here, so keep that in mind. What happens is, as men get closer in a relationship and things are going well, the oxytocin levels go up in his body as they start bonding. Then men will tend to want to pull away in order to rebuild their testosterone levels through their masculine missions.

As their oxytocin levels go up, their testosterone levels go down and this can cause a lot of stress for men with a strong sense of mission in his life. The problem here is that men and women are hardwired completely differently. Sure, we are all human. There are aspects that make all of us human. But there are also elements that make us completely different. Like the fact that most of us women see the world through our own feminine filters. Because what is intuitive to a man in a relationship is not what is intuitive to a woman. Most women are naturally more feminine in their core, and most men are naturally masculine in their core.

This creates what I call masculine or feminine biases in behaviour, especially in relationships. See, as a feminine woman, your natural bias is to move towards some kind of bonding or attachment in a relationship. You want to fill up, and you find it hard to let go. I was speaking to my husband David the other week. Truth is, there are SO many of these little breakthroughs my husband David and I have all the time about each other.

About the opposite sex, about love and relationships…. Because we are different creatures. What is intuitive for him can be counterintuitive or even foreign to me. It can cause difficult emotions. Yet, your incessant suffering comes from the meaning you give it when a man withdraws.

The meaning we give an event changes everything. And a bad meaning can sometimes come from a lack of understanding of men. We as women can give a man pulling away a different meaning, which would lead to us having a totally different experience. By having a greater understanding of men and their masculine world, then we are able to create better meaning and have the ability to show up with greater self esteem and more intrinsic value.

Remember, the reason why you were probably attracted to that man in the first place was his masculine energy, masculine presence and direction. If you want to know how high value your man is, read this article on s he is a high value man. To help you understand why him pulling away is not always a disaster, let me ask you a few questions:. How would you feel if you were around a man who was highly emotional?

Imagine him being incredibly relaxed and wanting to talk and connect with you all the time. Yes, you may — for a couple of days. And you may even be disgusted by him. What I am trying to suggest is that a man needs to pull away in order to be the man you are so attracted to. A man ghosting you means there was never any real connection and attraction between you both in the first place. It could mean that he was love bombing you.

However, a man pulling away is different. When men pull away from the relationship, there usually was some connection to begin with. Although you get scared or confused when he does suddenly pull away, you also get a chance to see that he is, in fact, a real man. In fact, the reason you were attracted to a man in the first place was largely to do with the masculine energy he gave out. His presence, his strength, intelligence, his sense of humour, his potential to be a good provider, etc.

This is all happening naturally, sometimes without you being aware of it. We want to be in a relationship with a masculine man, but when a man acts differently than we do, we get all hurt, confused and worried. Sometimes, a relationship and emotional bonding can feel like a burden to a man. This means that the emotional bonding in a very committed relationship can feel like a burden to a man. Even if at the same time, it is really the only thing that gives a man that feeling of being alive a feeling he cannot get when he is alone, without you.

And as he recognises how amazingly different you are to other women, he will be inspired to reciprocate, wanting to understand you and appreciate you. I have put together some special resources for how to stay high value when he pulls away — just . Obviously, if you are dating multiple men and he is dating multiple women, he may not care at all if you take your resources elsewhere!

Well let me tell you, your loyalty to the right man is not weakness. That is character. This is not to say that you should act like everything was ok and pretend nothing happened while he pulled away. You should never pretend nothing happened; that would be a lie. That would just completely break down the communication and the trust between you both. You would be stripping value from the relationship bank. This is about being emotionally generous, and cultivating that skill.

If you have established trust with this man, and you feel that he has invested in you, the key is to keep your value. Keep adding value to the relationship basket, rather than using your emotions to punish him, which will strip value from your relationship bank! So…the key is to keep your high value. In spite the confusion or the fear. How do you do that? You show that you are still loyal to him when you feel fearful — that you can stick around with an open heart, and be open instead of closed off emotionally.

Instead, they use their emotions as a weapon against him. Punishing a man never strengthened a relationship.

Why men pull away from a relationship

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Why Men Pull Away In A Relationship